EDM Is Sexist: Eight Reasons It Sucks to Be a Woman Who Raves

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Thanks for nothing.

As a self-respecting female with professional aspirations and a desire to be taken seriously as an individual, it's become increasingly difficult to identify with American electronic dance music culture without feeling kind of irresponsible.

Six or seven years ago, the playing field was pretty even. We went out to parties, we dressed as if David Bowie and Karen O had a baby, we got drunk on whiskey, we danced, and we were never embarrassed by our surroundings.

But things have changed. What started out as fun, rowdy party tricks have been fully incorporated into the scene as sexist expectations. That which was once ironic parody has become a parody of itself. We no longer look around the dance floor and see a utopia of acceptance.

Yes, this party is sexist. Here's why.

See also: Six Reasons to Never Have Sex With a DJ

Bodies as Billboards
Sticker wars are one of the most enjoyable parts of the EDM game. It's exciting to be out in the world and find a sticker of a DJ-producer you enjoy, or a blog you read regularly, or even the sticker of a personal friend stuck onto a garbage can or a light pole or the side of a bar. It's like walking into an inside joke. But somewhere along the way, someone put a sticker on a woman's bare ass and had a million dollar idea. Suddenly, stickers as pasties became the latest thing every DJ needed on their FB profile. Now it's sadly more an expectation than a shocking sign of good times. We shouldn't have to remind every asshole we meet with a sticker not to put it on our tits without asking, but we do.

Face Down, Ass Up
Listen, Diplo. I'm glad you helped introduce the world to NOLA bounce, twerking, daggering and the like. You and Eric Wareheim definitely killed it with that "Pon De Floor" video. Shit is classic. But now that Miley has completely murdered the neo-swing art form and turned it into modern, misunderstood exploitative garbage, we need to make it stop. News flash: Strippers aren't role models. The idea that a woman has nothing but her sexuality to rely on as a money maker is disgusting, outdated, and depressing. When executed properly, twerking and daggering are impressive, but when you're submitting pictures of yourself half-naked upside down on things just because everyone else is doing it, you're officially an attention-depraved moron.

See also: Ten Worst Raver Cliches

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moazim1993
moazim1993

Maybe you can't accept the fact that girls with free spirits actually wants to be naked and you with your "better morels" oppose it. You might wanna move to Iran where you might run into like minded people. Here's a general rule of thumb, if nothing is being forced on people and no one is getting hurt, its ok. Your right maybe we should try to let girls know they could be DJs and not just groupies they have a brain too and that's a real underlying problem, but what your doing is slut shaming, and it isn't cool because your pressuring people into your construct of morality. Your morality is subjective or fictional and not objective because no one is being forced or getting hurt. From what I've experienced, my girlfriend and most girls I know in the EDM scene, likes to be wild. My girlfriend dosn't wear pasties, nither do most girls. She wears things like a decorated bra and small shorts, and she asks my permission about it and it pisses me off that she has to ask. They want to express them selves but are self conscious about judgmental girls or if single the creepy bros that think they'll put out because they wear that. I tell her to wear whatever she wants because its her freedom of expression. I raved with bodybuilder dudes that wear short shorts and I didn't call them whores. What I've noticed with judgmental girls is since they have a different morality they feel like there having less fun not realizing that the attention they get from dressing less than they are comfortable with makes them uncomfortable so its a pretty stupid reason to be mad at girls with pasties. The thing that girl did for Flostradamus, well if whiping my cock out to Nervo increased my odds of getting to sleep with them I would, but there a double standard so I cant.

SluttyProudFeminist
SluttyProudFeminist

I'm disappointed by this article Kat, because I enjoyed your other one about not dating Djs-I have plenty of Dj friends but I thought your advice was wise, albeit a little overgeneralizing. However, with this, I consider myself a feminist and also a raver, and I don't think there's anything wrong with women wearing sexy outfits and dancing sexy-btw twerking has a long history that is rooted in some African dances. Men take off their shirts too and get all sweaty and naked too- and that's fine! I would prefer if this article focused on sexual assault (a problem in any and every scene) and more attention to female DJs. People looking hot and having fun consensual sex is not a problem, at least not to this feminist! It worries me that you specifically attack "slut-shaming" because it seems like you knew people would have genuine criticisms. Women's sexuality has been oppressed and controlled for millennia, let's let go of our Madonna/whore complexes and embrace all women, no matter how they dress. You can be more conservative, and I won't judge you, and please don't judge me or my sisters if we are very sexual. Let's stick together, not tear each other apart. That's what feminism is about- making things better! Party on, dudes and dudettes

MichelleinMiami
MichelleinMiami

Such a great article about and it applies to the club scene in general. Why can't a girl get up and dance without a strange guy trying to dry hump her? really? It's ridiculous already. I'm so glad somebody wrote this because partying has gone from fun to dumb.

MichelleinMiami
MichelleinMiami

Such a great article about and it applies to the club scene in general. Why can't a girl get up and dance without a strange guy trying to dry hump her? really? It's ridiculous already. Not to mention the videos with little girls on drugs humping trees. I'm so glad somebody wrote this because partying has gone from fun to dumb.

SomeSchmo
SomeSchmo

There are many many scantily clad women at EDM shows who are  celebrating their sexuality and flaunting their assets with tiny outfits... That, I believe, is the main contributing factor to the outward appearance of female objectification at the shows....

Also, if you go to a Diplo show, there will be hordes of knuckle-draggers, in my experience. As far as crowds go, Dillon Francis and Diplo attract the lowest common denominator of EDM fans. If you want a generally more mature group to party with, try attending a concert held by Pretty Lights' music label....... or perhaps a solid drum n bass show.

rockstarsmooth
rockstarsmooth

so glad that none of this reflects my experience as a raver! i'm 39, been raving since 1992,  still going strong. i guess there's something to be said for partying with adults, and going to good parties (ie: not massives) with good music and a low douchebag quotient.

hiroselee
hiroselee

Dumbest article I've ever read about EDM (actually it probably comes second to your article about why you shouldn't sleep with a DJ). First of all, since when did twerking represent EDM and was only a part of EDM culture? Clearly you don't know anything about the scene. Second of all, EDM isn't sexist because some girls wear some nipple stickers and think they look good. I would never be caught dead in nip stickers and I've gone to plenty of festivals, thank you. Third, men are pretty much just as naked as girls at festivals. And since when was men grinding up against women exclusive to EDM? Ugh. Seriously, Kat, get a fucking clue.

tonydangelo11
tonydangelo11

No. Let me say it again. No. The very premise of this article is in itself, wrong. Sexism is to discriminate against a person or people because of their sex. In fact, EDM is the opposite is sexist because It is BEYOND accepting of individual sexual preference. EDM doesn't care if you're Male, Female, Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual, transgender, monogamist, polygamist or asexual. In fact EDM couldn't care less about your sexuality, philosophy or politics as long as your dance and having a good time. All EDM cares about is dancing and having a good time. Period.

silentj9
silentj9

Give credit to our site, partywithsluts.com for the image of the beautiful asses. Which you'll note sells many both male and female clothes but never references gender in it's clothing. Being sexy and/or slutty may be morally wrong (in your eyes), but it doesn't mention FEMALE anywhere. How is something that says slut on it degrading to women? Especially if a guy is wearing it or a girl put it on by her own choice? This article is dumb and I want to punch it square in the face. 

sangie
sangie

This seems more about the music industry in general and not EDM specifically. As a gay male, I must say that EDM is rather focused on topless guys grinding on each other and probably has more homosexual lyrics and undertones than any current genre. EDM is also one of the few genres where the producer is put up front and not the vocalists. (Name the producer on Miley Cyrus's last song. I bet you can't without Google) and I believe EDM is truly about the joy in music.


As for women being objectified in music videos, that's all Armada and Spinnin Records doing. That isn't the whole industry and there are plenty of female vocalists in EDM that are well respected and don't feel like they have to strip down to nothing to make a statement, unlike Miley Cyrus, Lady GaGa, Katy Perry, Britney Spears, etc.

My final statement is most EDM songs are about enjoying music and dancing... not about love and sex like the current Top 40.

cmonson
cmonson

you coulda wrote this same article in any generation of the popular trending music of the moment. hair metal? disco? don't even get started with the hippies or elvis.

glen2238
glen2238

The fact that all these guys said they want sluts at EDM events and no other girls prove this article right. She isn't talking about society, she's talking about the culture.Karina Tellez should read the comments above hers to learn it might be female expression to her, but it seems the majority views you as a slut. Do you but you may be defined as a slut.

Frank Castle
Frank Castle

women want cock, thats why they dress like sluts, end of discussion

Camilo Melendez
Camilo Melendez

Cliff Foster what in the hell? You live in the most depressing state with super high suicide rates, I think Washington sucks humongous dong.

Kristofer Jesus Castellar
Kristofer Jesus Castellar

Cam said it best. Men want whores at EDM events, not Feminist who only worship their own financialy independent Pussies lol.

Camilo Melendez
Camilo Melendez

lmfao at this article. Another fucking joke written by a feminist. Sluts go to EDM festivals get the fuck over it or don't' go. Men want sluts, not feminists at these events. Now go cry to your little mommy.

Karina Tellez
Karina Tellez

Half of the people who enjoy EDM actually go out and party to it and half of them are spermlings. Girls who want to be party accessories can do so at their leisure. Guys who wanna be party accessories can do the same. Those who don't want to be human accessories just enjoy the music/dancing and venue to express themselves. I read this shit last week and cringed because the writer is 100% boring / slut-shaming and chalking up years of societal/cultural rearing to lack of creativity and individuality. Actually all of those girls who wear next to nothing in their kandi shit are still unique human beings. The lack of creativity and individuality lies in how this society/culture uses sex to sell everywhere and then of course women are the first to get reprimanded for showing their bodies because they feel like it. All the situations where women have been harassed due to their choices of clothing are THE FAULT OF THE HARASSER goddamn it

Yadira Capaz
Yadira Capaz

The opression is structural, y'all. The big picture. Read carefully before making dumbass statements based on the title. Question why you're being so defensive when her critiques are real.

Kenia West
Kenia West

Rose Lehmann i remember us butt naked on the slip n slide at smog miami.. the brros were goin crazy throwin ham n cheese at us. Ooh n ultra 2013 when we were catapulted naked on to the stage n gve everyone recently baked chocolate cookies.. ya knoww this bros love that shi. I be puttin buns in their mouth..

John Perez
John Perez

Isn't the term slut-shaming itself a contradiction to what it means?

Kenia West
Kenia West

^ thats right. Roseeee why u half naked gurrrl i can see ur buns.. take em back to the kitchen n make a sanwhichhhhh :') BROOO

Steve Sylus
Steve Sylus

I agreed with this article until the "shut the fuck up about stopping slut shaming" part. Slut shaming is wrong. Period.

Rose Lehmann
Rose Lehmann

Too bad she doesn't LOL. "Stick to your kitchen" WOW I can't believe people still use that joke. So original, guise.

Steve Sylus
Steve Sylus

What if those eight reasons were reversed? Would anyone say it's sexist? Just curious. Also, I love how she tells people to shut up about stopping slut shaming by telling women who they "truly are" lol

Kristofer Jesus Castellar
Kristofer Jesus Castellar

Kenia West if you dont want to be looked at like a sexual object, then youre probably better off not showing up to edm events practically naked, or revealing because then it's your own fault. Or better yet, stick to your kitchen

Thaadeus Brooks
Thaadeus Brooks

Sofl is mainly Latinos and Latino media over sexualizes women from childhood.. It's gross

Kenia West
Kenia West

Lol i dont think its only in soflo. Read people.. in the EDM SCENE if you think EDM is only in soflo, youre out of touch.

Frank Castle
Frank Castle

The moment i read the title for this article, i knew it was from Kat Bein...this has to be the dumbest article i have ever read, she has the worst articles at new times

Lauren Kathryn
Lauren Kathryn

Your magazine makes money off of EDM lineups. Let a ho be a ho....are you going to write about Hip Hop next week? Dumb and ignorant...the only person being judgemental and a bigot is the person who wrote this stupid ass article

Lauren Kathryn
Lauren Kathryn

Sooooo what...HIP HOP isn't sexist? Bros are hot...and you don't go to EMD shows to find a husband? Oh I didn't get the memo..shucks

Lauren Kathryn
Lauren Kathryn

I love EDM, acting like a slut and Bros.. Now what?

analise87
analise87

this entire article is so antithetical to feminism.  Its my body, i have the right to do what i want with it. If i choose to stand on my head and shake my ass then that is what I will do. 

Then  female body is gorgeous.  So much respect to the girls who are comfortable in their own skin to wear close-to-nothing proudly.    The fact that men "Grope" half naked women is a problem with MEN not with us.  

you must think girls who dress sexy deserve to be raped too.  


robert.n.nielsen
robert.n.nielsen topcommenter

EDM has always and will always fucking suk. the end.

Anthony Alfaro
Anthony Alfaro

Really? EDM hates women? EDM?! How about we deal with Hip Hop first and then we can talk! Also, Sexuality or "hypersexuality" is not antifeminist unless its being forced on the female. The expression of female sexuality is part of the feminist movement. WHO WROTE THIS SHIT?!

Shayla Walsh
Shayla Walsh

And if she was attempting to write about the political and social reasons for hyper sexualization and how that oppress women she missed the mark. Take a womens study class before you call yourself a feminist. Your article validates patriarchal views on women and gives men the "ok" to call women sluts. Need proof? Read the comments. MNT needs to fire this writer.

Shayla Walsh
Shayla Walsh

kat is slut shaming but calling herself a feminist. What an idiot.

szechwang
szechwang

@silentj9 Wouldn't it make the writer sexist by associating the term "slut" with women and not men?

moazim1993
moazim1993

@demoroman88 Its not likely to happen, but you could go away. Idk that seems like a better world if you went away. I know Id be more happy!

sangie
sangie

@Kristofer Jesus Castellar It's crap comments like this that shows feminism has to exist because of sexist pigs like yourself.

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