Five Things Not to Do on a First Date

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Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Today: How to avoid sabotaging your first night out with someone special.

You have the perfect outfit. Your date actually confirmed. And you're just minutes away from your first outing with a pretty cool person. Now, don't screw it up. No pressure, ok?

While I don't believe in one-size-fits-all dating rules, I do believe there are a few behaviors you can steer clear from on a first date to avoid the post-date hangover of regrets. I'm referring to that feeling you get when you start second-guessing everything that happened the day before. Did you talk too much? Should you not have said that thing about Cuban people -- or Cuban food? Yep, those are the remnants of a post-date hangover.

How to avoid that sour taste? Read on to learn about five things no one should be doing on a first date. Unless, of course, you're a contestant on The Bachelor.

1. Don't Plan for the Future
How many times have you caught yourself liking your date so much that you start imaging how everything would work out once you move in with each other? You begin to think, will he really give me the bigger closet? just as he's telling you where he attended university. Stop that right now!

Girls, we're more likely to partake in this future planning business than guys are, but that doesn't mean we can't get a hold of ourselves. Besides this being crazy behavior, when you begin to let your mind wander to some future time that doesn't even exist, you're missing out on the fun date that is happening right in front of you, in that moment. And you know all that anxiety you feel days later when he hasn't texted as much as you expected? Well, because you've already planned your wedding with the dude, you've become so attached that you fear losing this imaginary happiness. Plus, you begin to second-guess everything that happened on the date because you weren't really there to experience it all.

The alternative is to truly enjoy the date and not get caught up in what will happen next. I don't mean to get all Power-of-Now on you, but honestly, you're missing out on an awesome date biking through Miami Beach if your mind is somewhere two years from now. When it comes to dating, don't get ahead of yourself and watch the anxiety slip away. In the meantime, enjoy your date, the moment, and the scenery. You deserve it.



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Orlando J Rodriguez
Orlando J Rodriguez

1st 2nd third and if on the fourth it still feels good,U might just have found what you been Looking for,it's called" El Boyo Justo" :D)

Geral John Pinault
Geral John Pinault

Every Rose Deserves a Butterfly! I’m attracted to you just like sweet roses attract butterflies… When we first met this curious sort of buzzing Exhilaration kept shooting throughout me, And so I knew right away that I had to explore This most scintillating mystery! The mystery that surrounded you And everything that you stood for, Because I had never met a women before Who had ever excited me more! I used to dart from flower to flower, seeking after the nectar of life, Because I was hoping and praying that I’d meet That certain special someone who would like to become my wife! But that sort of thinking usually borders on creative fantasies, So I decided that I was going to be particularly careful This time around as I needed to uncover this fairy-tale’s factual realities! You can’t listen to gossip or idle rumors when it comes to finding a mate, So I made sure that I’d be most attentive when we went out on our first date! I’m happy to report that you were also attracted to me, And so I began to dream about our future together And all of its subtle possibilities! You have to uncover the truth before you and yours can write Anything constructive in the Book of Love, And that’s why I had decided that you were going to become The central fixture in this newest feature of mine Before push came to shove! I’m so elated to report that you my sweet flower Are the genuine article that I’ve been longingly searching for, So get ready to receive all of my love and attention now dear lady Because I’ll definitely keep coming back for more! Geral John Pinault - Miami Fla April 24, 2013 © www.poemsonlifeandlove.com www.geraljohn.com

Jo D A-s W
Jo D A-s W

I prefer sex in the last date... ;)

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