Five Things Not to Do on a First Date
Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Today: How to avoid sabotaging your first night out with someone special.
You have the perfect outfit. Your date actually confirmed. And you're just minutes away from your first outing with a pretty cool person. Now, don't screw it up. No pressure, ok?
While I don't believe in one-size-fits-all dating rules, I do believe there are a few behaviors you can steer clear from on a first date to avoid the post-date hangover of regrets. I'm referring to that feeling you get when you start second-guessing everything that happened the day before. Did you talk too much? Should you not have said that thing about Cuban people -- or Cuban food? Yep, those are the remnants of a post-date hangover.
How to avoid that sour taste? Read on to learn about five things no one should be doing on a first date. Unless, of course, you're a contestant on The Bachelor.
1. Don't Plan for the Future
How many times have you caught yourself liking your date so much that you start imaging how everything would work out once you move in with each other? You begin to think, will he really give me the bigger closet? just as he's telling you where he attended university. Stop that right now!
Girls, we're more likely to partake in this future planning business than guys are, but that doesn't mean we can't get a hold of ourselves. Besides this being crazy behavior, when you begin to let your mind wander to some future time that doesn't even exist, you're missing out on the fun date that is happening right in front of you, in that moment. And you know all that anxiety you feel days later when he hasn't texted as much as you expected? Well, because you've already planned your wedding with the dude, you've become so attached that you fear losing this imaginary happiness. Plus, you begin to second-guess everything that happened on the date because you weren't really there to experience it all.
The alternative is to truly enjoy the date and not get caught up in what will happen next. I don't mean to get all Power-of-Now on you, but honestly, you're missing out on an awesome date biking through Miami Beach if your mind is somewhere two years from now. When it comes to dating, don't get ahead of yourself and watch the anxiety slip away. In the meantime, enjoy your date, the moment, and the scenery. You deserve it.