Five Things Not to Do on a First Date

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4. Don't Not Listen
Not listening during a date goes hand-in-hand with talking too much. But not listening can be more damaging. Why? Because you may leave your date with a totally different understanding of the person you went out with simply because you did not take the time to truly listen.

Honest listening is hard to do, but all it takes is some practice. First, you want to make sure you're hearing the person out without bringing in your own judgments about what they're saying. Don't judge; just listen and observe.

The other trick is to listen fully. Meaning, don't only hear what you want to hear. Listen to the entire sentence and conversation. For example, your date might mention that he wants a serious relationship, but within the same breath he mentions that he's still hung up on his ex-girlfriend. Those of us who like to hear what we want to hear will have only paid attention to the serious relationship part and completely disregard the ex-girlfriend bit. A few months later when he dumps you with that lasting phrase, "It's not you, it's me," you're totally surprised. Shocking, right?

If you truly listen, your date will show you who s/he really is. Let them, and then believe them.

5. Don't Have Sex
Hold your horses, liberals. I'm not saying to completely brush aside the idea of sex on a first date. I'm not saying that at all. What I want you to do is have a serious conversation with yourself about the birds and the bees -- the kind your parents forgot to have with you.

Sex on a first date can be so much fun, and it could even lead to a lasting relationship. But if you're giving it up for the wrong reasons, you're setting yourself up for disaster, disappointment, and shame.

So, how do you know if you're giving it up for the wrong reasons? If there's even a tiny bit of you that thinks sex will bring the two of you closer or make you appear more desirable, do not do it. You're not in the right place to enjoy the fun that can come from intimacy. And there's nothing wrong with that! You just have to be honest with yourself, and know where you are in life.

Many of us use sex as a way to create the illusion of a bond. Just because you are physically connected does not mean you are forming the kind of connection needed to create a lasting relationship. It's a complete lie -- and both parties can feel it. Plus, this type of ulterior motive always results in clinginess.

Other times, you may use sex because you feel your hot Miami body is the only thing you have to offer. First off, it's not a thing -- it's you. And second, you're beautiful because you are, well, you. But if you don't see that, no one else will.

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Orlando J Rodriguez
Orlando J Rodriguez

1st 2nd third and if on the fourth it still feels good,U might just have found what you been Looking for,it's called" El Boyo Justo" :D)

Geral John Pinault
Geral John Pinault

Every Rose Deserves a Butterfly! I’m attracted to you just like sweet roses attract butterflies… When we first met this curious sort of buzzing Exhilaration kept shooting throughout me, And so I knew right away that I had to explore This most scintillating mystery! The mystery that surrounded you And everything that you stood for, Because I had never met a women before Who had ever excited me more! I used to dart from flower to flower, seeking after the nectar of life, Because I was hoping and praying that I’d meet That certain special someone who would like to become my wife! But that sort of thinking usually borders on creative fantasies, So I decided that I was going to be particularly careful This time around as I needed to uncover this fairy-tale’s factual realities! You can’t listen to gossip or idle rumors when it comes to finding a mate, So I made sure that I’d be most attentive when we went out on our first date! I’m happy to report that you were also attracted to me, And so I began to dream about our future together And all of its subtle possibilities! You have to uncover the truth before you and yours can write Anything constructive in the Book of Love, And that’s why I had decided that you were going to become The central fixture in this newest feature of mine Before push came to shove! I’m so elated to report that you my sweet flower Are the genuine article that I’ve been longingly searching for, So get ready to receive all of my love and attention now dear lady Because I’ll definitely keep coming back for more! Geral John Pinault - Miami Fla April 24, 2013 © www.poemsonlifeandlove.com www.geraljohn.com

Jo D A-s W
Jo D A-s W

I prefer sex in the last date... ;)

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