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Dear Mistress Lera,
I really enjoy feeling pain and I often fantasize about being dominated by women. But I don't have the first clue about BDSM or where to start. I'm 18 years old, and I don't know anyone else that's into it.
I'm totally against self-harming, but I can't get enough if it's someone else doing it. I've tried talking to my girlfriend about it, but she thinks I'm a weirdo. She thinks the kind of person who would hurt me like that would never love me. Is it true that people into S&M are doomed never to love or be loved? We've been together a while now and I really love her and don't want to lose her, but I just feel like there's something missing in our relationship.
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