Five Dating Tips for Guys From a Miami Mixologist

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Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Have a question for Nikki? Email it to cultist@miaminewtimes.com.

John Verrochi has experienced hundreds of first dates, No, he's not the Don Juan of the South. But close: he's a mixologist at the Shore Club.

Seriously, who better to ask for dating advice than someone with a front row seat at one of the swankiest nightlife spots in town? After years of patrolling lounges, dives, clubs, and restaurant bars throughout the East Coast -- from Boston and New York to Miami -- he's come to believe that some things are absolute when it comes to courting a lady.

And while I usually dish out tips for the ladies, these awesomely insightful pointers are geared towards the fellas. So don't say we never helped you out.

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Three Reasons Why a Summer Fling Is Worth It

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Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Have a question for Nikki? Email it to cultist@miaminewtimes.com.

If you've been in Miami long enough, you've undoubtedly experienced the phenomenon of summer flings. The same way Northerners seem to couple during the cold months to avoid boredom, we do the same during the hot months.

Maybe the heat makes us lazy. Maybe it's the fact we're all wearing less clothing. Whatever the reason may be, it's hard to meet a local who doesn't have a story about that one epic summer spent dating the kind of beautiful disaster you don't bring home to mom.

Unfortunately, these types of relationships get a bad rep. So much so, that you've promised yourself not to get involved in this kind of dating that always seems to come with an expiration date. After all, someone is bound to get hurt, and it's a total waste of time, right?

Well, what if I told you a summer fling could be just what the love doctor ordered? That's right. A hot, sweaty, no-strings-attached fling may be just the thing you need in order to be catapulted in the right direction when it comes to finding real love. Tempted? Read on.

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Three Miami Love Stories to Give Us All Hope

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Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Have a question for Nikki? Email it to cultist@miaminewtimes.com.

When it comes to dating, Miami gets a bad rap. Maybe it's partially deserved. But perhaps we're just failing to see the good? After one too many unfortunate dates and a few short-lived relationships, it's easy to think that this Magic City has lost that loving feeling.

On the contrary: love is all around. For this edition of Relationship Rehab, we caught up with three local couples who live, work, play, and love in this city -- and make it all work somehow.

Before reading the series of interviews below, be warned: love does not have a limited supply. Just because they found it, doesn't mean there's none left for you. Instead, their stories and tips are an inspiration to all of us. If it happened to them, it can most definitely happen to you. Believe and you will see it. These locals did.


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Four Reasons Why Rebound Dating Is More Dangerous Than You Think

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Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Have a question for Nikki? Email it to cultist@miaminewtimes.com.

Breaking up is hard to do. And it seems like people rarely offer the right amount of sympathy towards someone who is going through a recent split. One day you have your life all planned out with this person, and the very next day you're left alone with no road map or instructions. It's not an easy place to be.

After a breakup, it takes time to bring your ex down from that pedestal you created in your mind, in order to see the situation from a healthy and realistic perspective. In other words: you need time to heal.

But healing requires vulnerability. And who wants to be in that position, publicly nonetheless? It almost feels shameful. Instead of working it out with ourselves, we do our best to numb ourselves in any way possible.

See also:
- Dating in Miami: Six Things You're Doing All Wrong, According to Local Expert Nikki Novo
- Miami's Most Annoying Dating Habits, According to Three Local Singles
- Four Reasons Why You Can't Get a Date


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Five Reasons It's Great to Be Single in Miami

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Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Today: Chin up, Miami singles -- flying solo in the Magic City is actually pretty great.

The grass is always greener on the other side, right? Many times, couples want some freedom, and singles want a partner. But rather than wish our situation were different than what it is, let's see the good and acknowledge it. Why? Because none of us are going to receive great things until we recognize what we have. Think of it as shaking what the universe gave ya.

For those of you who consider being single a disease a death sentence, listen up: This time is so much greater than that. Give it the importance it deserves. Before you know it, you'll be trading in drinks at Nobu with friends for Friday nights at home, eating pizza, and watching another not-so-great movie on demand with your holey t-shirt-wearing significant other. Don't call me to reminisce about the good 'ole single days then!

Today's post is all about appreciating what you have, and taking advantage of this sacred time in your life. You're single, and that's pretty awesome. Just ask the married couple down the hall. And if you don't believe them, here are five reasons why your relationship status is something worth enjoying-- especially when you live in Miami.

See also:
- Dating in Miami: Six Things You're Doing All Wrong, According to Local Expert Nikki Novo
- Three Great Places to Meet Singles (When the Bar Scene Gets Old)

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A Single's Guide to Surviving Wedding Season

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Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Today: How to get through this year's barrage of other people's wedding bliss.

After months of dressing your fridge with a collection of heart-shaped save the date cards and magnets of happy couples, the time has finally arrived: wedding season.

Not since Valentine's Day have you harped on the fact that you're single. But with a marathon of monopolized weekends, pricey gifts, and kissy Champagne toasts ahead, you can't help but feel bad about your relationship status week after week. And that tiny rsvp box isn't helping either. Are you bringing a plus one? Will you have any prospects by the time the event rolls around? Should you go stag with the hopes of meeting someone? Should you go at all?

Well, here's one piece of literature that was created just for you. As you prepare yourself for a calendar filled with painful blind setups and cold chicken, take a look at our guide for surviving wedding season. There's no mention of catching the bouquet. Promise.

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Four Reasons Why You Can't Get a Date

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Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Today: What not to do to land that elusive first date.

Ah, the first date. Do they even exist anymore? After a string of group hangouts and zero dinner invites, you're starting to think the one-on-one date is becoming extinct. And on particularly bad days, you're wondering if the famine is a personal problem.

Listen up: there is nothing wrong with you. Repeat after me: "I am not broken."

Now that we have that clear, rest assured that the first date continues to live on, and all you may need are a few tweaks to your strategy in order to jump in the game. From learning to send the right signals to restricting yourself from giving it all up front, these three sneaky tips will help fill up that calendar in no time.

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Five Great Things About Dating in Miami

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Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Today: Five reasons to stay optimistic about Miami's dating scene.

I admit it: Like many other Miamians, for a long time I was under the impression that in order to find a suitable mate, I'd have to get out of town. Anyone who has been single in the Magic City long enough can sympathize with our pond's slim pickings.

I was tired of meeting the same immature, shady (and badly dressed) guy over and over again. Why hadn't it happened for me? I knew there were other people out there who would find each other, get married, buy a house in Coral Gables or Belle Meade, and create 2.5 children. I knew this because I would see them on Facebook. When would it be my turn?

And then I thought: Could I be the problem?

See also:
- Dating in Miami: Six Things You're Doing All Wrong, According to Local Expert Nikki Novo
- Three Great Places to Meet Singles (When the Bar Scene Gets Old)
- Three Miami Men You Should Never, Ever Date


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Five Things Not to Do on a First Date

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Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Today: How to avoid sabotaging your first night out with someone special.

You have the perfect outfit. Your date actually confirmed. And you're just minutes away from your first outing with a pretty cool person. Now, don't screw it up. No pressure, ok?

While I don't believe in one-size-fits-all dating rules, I do believe there are a few behaviors you can steer clear from on a first date to avoid the post-date hangover of regrets. I'm referring to that feeling you get when you start second-guessing everything that happened the day before. Did you talk too much? Should you not have said that thing about Cuban people -- or Cuban food? Yep, those are the remnants of a post-date hangover.

How to avoid that sour taste? Read on to learn about five things no one should be doing on a first date. Unless, of course, you're a contestant on The Bachelor.

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The Ten Best Ways to Spend a First Date in Miami

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Each week, Miami dating expert Nikki Novo gives us advice on finding love in this hopeless place. Today: Ten only-in-Miami ways to impress your first date.

Are you a one-date wonder? Maybe it's bad luck, or maybe there's a lack of enthusiastic planning. We're not blaming you for your misfortune (not entirely, at least), but if good ol' dinner-and-a-movie isn't working, it's time to add some Miami spice to the mix.

From Homestead to Miami Beach and everywhere in between, lots of local spots and happenings are perfect for a first date, and we've rounded them up for you here. Sure, you'll find a few tried-and-true restaurants in this group, but you'll also discover an artful bike tour, a gourmet culinary class, and a booty-poppin' hangout.

Browse our list of ideas, choose one, and watch the magic happen. The sparks are on us.

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