Tampa Mom Makes Son Stand on Street Corner With Low GPA Displayed on Sign

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Florida officials are always talking about innovative new ways to boost education in the state, but perhaps Tampa-area mom Ronda Holder has found an unusual answer: public student humiliation. She made her son stand on a street corner holding a sign displaying his dismal 1.22 GPA as a last resort to try and get him to take his studies more seriously.

The 33-year-old hair stylist was fed up that her 15-year-old son, James Mond III, was making his way through school with such low grades. Though, neither she nor the boy's father tried to help him with his homework, they grounded him, took away his cell phone, and gave him lecture after lecture to get him to raise his grades, but nothing worked. In fact, the last straw came when he got an F in gym class on his latest report card.

Holder was afraid if he didn't take his education seriously he'd end up on the streets, so she decided to preempt this by, uh, putting him on the streets. 

"I don't want any of my kids to stand by the side of the road asking for change," she told the St. Petersburg Times. Holder says that her other five children all get good grades in school.

James was made to stand on a busy intersection with a large sign around his neck reading, "I did 4 questions on my FCAT and said I wasn't going to do it ... GPA 1.22 ... honk if I need (an) education."

Of course, child experts aren't that high on Holder's plan.

"It's such an unfortunate strategy, and of course it's ineffective," a child development expert told the Times. "The key to motivating children is to balance responsibility with support, and balance is the important part."

It's kind of sad, actually, that Florida parents who are earnestly trying to get their children to take their education seriously but perhaps don't have the best resources to do so on their own have to resort to things like this.

Think about it like this: If the school can't help a student who has parents who are overly concerned, how are they going to help kids who have parents that may not even care?

Corner punishment is working, Mom says: MyFoxTAMPABAY.com

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Bingham Lofts
Bingham Lofts

i got a D in Gym Class but got A's in everything else so there.

MARTLEE
MARTLEE

I really support this action because now kids are so into doing their own thing and in this country not taking education seriously enough. A reality check is needed that we must do what we have to do to make sure our kids learn the value of a good education...THIS LADY DID THE RIGHT THING by having her son hold a sign as a last resort If this mom didn't care, as so many people like to stereotype any way she would of not have taken some kind of action .She didn't beat him, she didn't ignore the problem, and she didn't just ship him off to someone else like most lazy parents do. She just embarrassed him which everyone knows teenagers hate the most. I say mind your own business and worry about the kids getting beat, abandoned, really abused the system is all screwed up and they need to be retrained on TRUE ABUSE. THE SYSTEM WILL BE READY TO LOCK HIM AND LABEL HIM AS SOON AS SHE SAYS OK LEARN THE HARD WAY... BUT SHE WANTS TO SAVE HER SON IF I KNEW HOW TO REACH HER I WOULD SAY DO WHAT U HAVE TO TO RAISE YOUR KIDS TO BE THE BEST THEY CAN BE....

jc
jc

I wanna say, let her discipline her kid how she wants. She didn't beat him, she didn't ignore the problem, and she didn't just ship him off to someone else like most lazy parents do. She just embarrassed him which everyone knows teenagers hate the most. I say mind your own business and worry about the kids getting beat, abandoned, and ignored instead.

Satom027
Satom027

While extreme and embarrasing I don't see it as such a bad thing if you've tried everything else. Where is the school system in all this, I have felt it lacking in my area as well, passing along students like her son with poor grades. Hawaii allowed minor offenders stand on the hwy with a sign stating their crime.

ChristinaJ Davis
ChristinaJ Davis

THE FATHER IS IN THE PICTURE AND HE IS CONCERNED JUST AS MUCH AS SHE IS !!!! OMG.. THIS LADY DID THE RIGHT THING BY HAVING HER CHILD HOLD A SIGN AS A LAST RESORT. DAMN.. IF THE LADY DIDNT CARE , AS SO MANY PEOPLE LIKE TO STEREOTYPE BLACKS ANYWAY, YALL WOULD NOT GIVE A RATS' ***. AND CONSIDERED HIM JUST ANOTHER HOOD RAT. THIS LADY DOES, SHE EVEN EXPLAINED THAT HER METHOD IS WORKING. DSS EVEN CAME BY HER HOUSE .. FOR WHAT EXACTLY. THIS IS A LESSONED LEARNED NOT ONLY FOR JAMES BUT FOR HIS CHILDRENS' CHILDREN AS WELL. I WOULD DEFINITELY USE THIS METHOD ON MY CHILD IF I HAD ONE. SHE WAS WORRIED ABOUT HER SON BEING IN THE STREETS, SHE'S DOING SOMETHING TO MAKE SURE THIS DOESNT HAPPEN AND YOU PEOPLE CRITICIZE HER. IM CONFUSED. MAKE SURE YOUR CHILD DOES RIGHT OR LET THEM FALL BY THE WASTE SIDE. YEAH, THERE'S OTHER WAYS BUT WHO SAID THERE WAS AN OUTLINE TO BEING A PARENT AND DISCIPLINING YOUR CHILD. IF YOU SO MUCH AS POP YOUR CHILD, THAT IS ABUSE. IF YOU YELL AT YOUR CHILD, THAT IS ABUSE. IF YOU MAKE YOUR CHILD WALK TO SCHOOL BECAUSE HE OR SHE MISS THE BUS, DAMN IF THAT ISN'T ABUSE EITHER. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IM 20.. AND I SAY RAISE YOUR CHILD AS YOU PLEASE SO LONG AS THE RESULTS ARE POSITIVE AND EFFECTIVE.

FQS9000
FQS9000

Yet another Florida public education success story. Union power rocks, at least for the union!!!! Do ya think that if this woman had a voucher she would put her kid in a good school?

Whosthere?
Whosthere?

Wow - not one comment from all you arm-chair quarterbacks out there about dear old dad. Where is he? That dead-beat dumps his family, his responsibilities, and takes no heat what-so-ever from the plethora of parenting experts you all claim yourselves to be. It's likely he's chiming in himself about whatever 'she' is doing, just to get a sympathetic pat on the back from his other loser buddies. Seems that clown should be wearing a sign on a street corner saying, "my kids are failing 'cuz I'M A DEADBEAT, and the rest of you are paying for it, too!"

Smeisch
Smeisch

my mom did something like this to me 13 years ago, except she came to my school and embarrassed me. it worked.

GerthaP
GerthaP

Praise for real women who are mothers!!!!

Gertha P. WhiteheadNorth Miami Senior High SchoolMiami

BF
BF

After reading all the comments about this article, I began to think everybody think they have a better way, but no one reached out to help this family. It takes a village to raise a child. Talking about the mother and what she did or didn't do, or even as much as you think she needs an education isn't going to HELP that child. We are losing ourselves as a people and that is HELPING each other!!!! Once again "IT TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A CHILD"!!!!!!!

BelieveNjames!
BelieveNjames!

Maybe we should get the internet community invovled and post a massive: I BELIEVE IN YOU JAMES!!!

QC1313
QC1313

This goes beyond being frustrated and into the realm of desperation. My interpretation is she is trying desperately to save her son from himself and time is running out. As the mother of my own character building son, I won't judge her. How far would you go to save your child? A little shame in exchange for motivation and personal pride? A lesson rather than a life style?

Kat
Kat

Perhaps the child has a learning disability, perhaps the parents need to spend more time helping, I do understand being frustrated but physiological abuse is still abuse, NOT tough love. The only way I would say that this is effective is if SHE stood on a corner announcing her failure to seek appropriate means to help her son in a non abusive manner. Really, Cost is not an issue in testing for learning disabilities or spending time helping with the homework. even Counseling is free if your income is such that you can't afford it. Which is good because now that he feels like an idiot for being not as smart as the rest of her kids or as loved because he is not, he will need the counseling

Golfer4u
Golfer4u

Honk if I need "and" education? Sounds like she should be holding the sign also....

MSF1986
MSF1986

ANOTHER SET OF PARENTS NOT HELPING THEIR KID.DON'T BLAME THE KIDDON'T BLAME THE SCHOOLS

THEY ARE TO BLAME

Angiejohnson32
Angiejohnson32

I think the mother hasn't been doing a good job of raising her son.I'm sure she hasn't been an active parent at his school meaning volunteering,having open communication with the teachers;tutorial.When you try to "correct" children when they are teenagers, it's less effective;you should start when they're younger.

The mother needs education too-listen at the way she speaks.Her grammar is awful,let's not mention her appearance.She didn't just realize that his GPA was 1.22, she should have realized it when he was in elementary school.He has never been an honor student,I'm sure of that.I guarantee you that the school(s) he has attended has never seen this mother, unless he was involved in some trouble.

She should have put him in tutorial classes and had great communication with her son and his teachers! She mentioned that she haas taken his cell phone as a form of punishment.I don't think children should have cell phones,especially if they aren't doing good in school.That's part of the problem.She should have been spending the cell phone money on tutorial services.

brian
brian

I hate to break it to mom, but nobody cares what your grades in high school were or are.

Have him take the GED test till he passes.

Jullie
Jullie

Children need their own space so that they can explore their talent and creativity. Instead of punishing them such a way, we, the parents should always stand beside to help them learning different things. We should teach them different subjects in different innovative ways so that they love to learn them. Parents, especially mother is the best teacher in a child’s life. The way, she can guide a child, no other can! However, sometimes, it becomes hard for the parents to help children doing homework. In that case, they can take advantage of online tutoring services like tutorteddy.com.

Designsdejavu
Designsdejavu

What good is humiliating the child if neither parents have been willing to help him with something as simple as his homework? OK, the 5 other children are doing well, but each child is different. Kids have to learn at an early age how to structure their study habits and school work ethics. They're not born with that ability, it's up to the parents to teach it to them. I see this as causing another problem, not a solution.

IPLayvidegamesallday
IPLayvidegamesallday

Yeah its nice that the parents are involved they're doing oh so wrong. "watch kids day and night." That's nice Big Brother. The Problem starts at the young age where kids are not taught these values. At this age ( really after 12-13) the kid will start to do what they want and your silly ideas of forcing them to work and do what you want is not going to work.

CRMiles
CRMiles

Surely, mom was trying to get the point to her son that he need to make some changes and show more effort in school. An F in phys ed. is ridiculous. This certainly gets her point across. I really support this action because now kids are so into doing their own thing and in this country not taking education seriously enough. A reality check is needed that we must do what we have to do to make sure our kids learn the value of a good education. We need to be competitve in the realm of education with our international neighbors, otherwise that young man will be on a meal ticket we will always have to pay for. I support year round schooling for our children.

sunfish
sunfish

I am a full time teacher. There are students who truly DO NOT CARE if they have failing grades. I have a student who is highly intelligent and I know he can do the work. He doesn't believe that being able to read and write is of benefit to him.

I have given him peps talks, tried to illustrate the benefits of learning the tasks at hand and counseled him about staying in school.

He truly believes that he can drop out and become a multi-millionaire. Keep in mind, he has no idea HOW he will become a millionaire high school dropout, but, he believes he can easily do it.

If you think that giving students technology-based lessons will engage them every moment, you are mistaken. We have a number of students who only want to socialize, and work on what interests them (mostly sports and video games). They read far below grade level, their math scores are not adequate and they are not ready to earn a living. However, they listen to no one, except what they believe to be true.

If Mom made her son stand on the street corner,and she's tried other methods first, I say he'll continue to thrive and survive.

However, I will say that some students need to be watched every night to make sure they do their homework. Many of them will not do it willingly.

Ask other teachers. You may find that quite a few will tell you similar things about certain students.

KK
KK

Best parenting...ever. Take our sons back. It's not violent. It's not scarring. It's memorable, and will never want to be repeated by him again. Good job.

The real emotional scar is having to resort to begging for change, robbing to eat and subsequently going to jail - ensuring he'll be among the statistics of black men with convictions that can't get a job. /notes taken/other sideline moms, are you listening?

TS
TS

Instead of opening up the public to his life find some employers willing to help open this young man's eyes to what he can expect for a future without a good education. We have become such a material society that showing the younger generation how education can =$ which can provide a better lifestyle may be the way to go, not humiliation.

Sillydad
Sillydad

Some people learn differently. “If a child can't learn the way we teach, maybe we should teach the way they learn.” Ignacio Estrada quote

To God Be The Glory
To God Be The Glory

I do recall the father being mentioned!The mother said she and his father has done all they could.I have been following this story from day one.The father is in the picture!I've watched the news here and they did state that "they" meaning mother and father have done everything they could.

Jones2349
Jones2349

To be fair, the father was mentioned in the article as being involved. It said neither mom or dad helped with his assignments. Could be they were uneducated,but didn't want the same for their son. He flunked PE. Come on!!

Loveis247365
Loveis247365

BF YOUR SO RIGHT, BUT PEOPLE ALWAYS HAVE A TAKE ON THINGS BUT WHICH ON STOOD UP AND SAID HE LET ME HELP? THE MAIN ONES WHO SAY SHE IS WRONG WONT EVEN BREATH HER WAY.

Christinaj Davis
Christinaj Davis

why does she need to be holding the sigh. she did a good job.. her method is working and he is getting better grades...

Christinaj Davis
Christinaj Davis

that is not true. This kid is 15 years old.. he is at an age where he can make decisions on his own.. A mom or dad can raise his or her child to the best of their ability but in the end if the kid decides to act up anyway u can just blame that on the parents.. What about the kids raised in rich families but still end up murdering someone .... (example.)

Hydrabadchik
Hydrabadchik

WOW!!  Really??

Youre SURE she hasn't been an 'active' parent?

In reading this article - I can't swear thatt she has - but I'm certainly not SURE that she "hasn't been an active parent'.

Tutorial services cost MORE than cell phone money - I know 6 people in that position right now - it's not just about the money.  There's also the timing.  Who's going to drop kiddie off or pick him up?  If not that then the cost of transportatiion raises the cost of the tutorial services.

Hydrabadchik
Hydrabadchik

Yeah, actually COLLEGES care what your high school grades were.

And in fact - I tried to get a job overseas - and they wanted to know my high school grades.

At this point - it's not even about the grades - it's about the effort and the reaction to authority and the unrealistic understanding of how life works.

You must be akid to be talking the way you are.

Kats
Kats

that was old school Brian, now having good grades do matter and stick with you for life!

Sankofasc
Sankofasc

High school grades most certainly do matter. It impacts the type of college/university you are admitted to. A 1.22 GPA is not acceptable.....in any circumstance.

Jones2349
Jones2349

What will work? Getting a gun and blowing them away?

Simmly
Simmly

Thank you, sunfish!! I am also a teacher and have a lot of experience with students who just aren't interested in learning the most basic skills they will need to make a living. By far, the students I most worry about are the ones who have totally unconcerned parents. At least this parent is aware of her son's behavior/problems in school and is getting involved!! As for "not helping him with his homework," it's likely his parents don't know enough about the subjects themselves. . . I took a few advanced math classes in my day, but as an early childhood educator, I don't exactly use those skills every day and by the time my own kids are taking those kinds of classes, I'm certain I won't be able to help them!!

I honestly don't think this kid is going to be scarred for life. However, being an adolescent who is pretty worried about what his peers think, he will likely learn a lesson! LOL His sign says he did 4 questions on his FCAT and refused to do any more. Sounds like a kid who just thinks he has better things to do; not one who really has a learning problem. (And if he did, it's very likely his school would have caught on to it.)

Sillydad, I appreciate your quote. That philosophy is the foundation of teacher education. Any half-decent teacher knows this and strives to practice it. The problem comes in when you have a kid that you cannot motivate. And sure, it sounds happy and nice to say that you can motivate ANY child; you just have to find the way. Sure you do. But, when you are a teacher who also has 25 other students to teach and quite a lot of material and skills to cover so that your students can pass whatever state-mandated test they'll have to take, this may not be possible. Especially if you have no support from the child's home. In short, what works perfectly in theory does not necessarily work out in the real world.

BumFarto
BumFarto

"Some people learn differently." Probably not, although you'd be hard-pressed to find any one in any college of education to disagree with you. Cognitive psychologists, the scientists who study how people learn, generally have discredited what most educators call "learning styles." DT Willingham of UVa has been eloquent in this matter.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v...

beautycoach
beautycoach

The President of the United States of America hasn't had to show his grades. Why should anyone else? He is setting a new precedent. Granted, it's low but shouldn't kids be taught at least somewhat by example? Just askin'.

G-Money
G-Money

yall can fuckin suck my damn cock... ill shoot all yur asses... im a gangsta and i dnt rly fuckin care wat grades i get... wait... i forgot.. i dropped out

brian
brian

Maybe if every thing after 6th grade wasn't repitition the kids wouldn't be so bored.

Hydrabadchik
Hydrabadchik

He hasn't had to show grades??? Yo umean to you?  I'm sure he had to show them to get into college.

And whatever he did after college depended on his college grades and so on and so on.

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