Filomena Tobias, Heat Middle-Finger Lady, Has Drug-, Death-, and Divorce-Filled Past

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Turns out Filomena Tobias, the woman captured in that now-iconic photo flipping off Joakim Noah during last night's Heat-Bulls game, might be the most bizarrely interesting woman in the world. How bizarrely interesting? Well, this is the nut graph from a 2008 New York magazine story about the death of her fourth husband:

The hedge-funder Seth Tobias was found dead in his pool. His hard-partying wife has been accused of his murder by her internet psychic, who also says the hedge-funder was having an affair with a male stripper named Tiger. And it just gets more sordid from there.

Yeah. That kind of crazy.

Filomena discovered her lifeless husband floating face down in the pool of his Jupiter mansion in 2007, and it set off one of the biggest Palm Beach scandals of the decade. A fight for his $300 million estate ensued, with Seth's brothers claiming Filomena had drugged and killed her husband. (She was cleared of any charges.) An internet psychic later claimed Filomena had confessed to him that she lured her hubby into the pool with promises of sex with a male stripper named Tiger (because he had tiger stripes tattooed across his body).

Filomena, also known as Phyllis, was once an Italian Catholic school girl in New Jersey. At the age of 18, she married her first husband, Vince Racanati. The couple had a daughter but divorced after a year. She soon remarried to a stock broker named Arthur Tolendini; that union lasted three years.

She then moved to Palm Beach and walked down the aisle with Jay Jacknin, a divorce attorney. The two stayed together for almost a decade and had two children, but Jacknin filed for divorce in 2002 after he claimed Filomena had racked up a bunch of debt on secret credit cards. However, Filomena stayed in the couple's home throughout the divorce, and police were called to the home three times in 2003. Jacknin claimed each time that Filomena had physically assaulted him. Eventually, restraining orders were filed, and Jacknin said his estranged wife was on a cocktail of Xanax, Ritalin, Vicodin, and cocaine. During this time, she began dating Seth Tobias. Interestingly, Jacknin had introduced the two.

According to New York, the relationship was dramatic from the get-go:

Seth and Phyllis's relationship was insane, even in the early days. Phyllis blasted Seth about his coke habit, but they both were heavy drinkers, especially of champagne. A former Circle T [Seth's hedge fund] employee says he personally saw Phyllis give Seth coke and use the drug herself on many occasions. (Jacknin denies those claims.) Seth questioned Phyllis's emotional stability. They each accused one another of infidelity. It went back and forth like that.

Eventually the two eloped in 2005. The marriage included hard partying, numerous fights, and many visits from the police. But in each instance, the pair refused to press charges or charges were dropped.

Oh, and Filomena also began consulting an online psychic named Ash about everything.

After Seth's death, Ash came forward and told police that Filomena had confessed to him that she had killed her husband after promising to arrange a tryst with Tiger the stripper, though no charges were ever filed.

It appears Filomena is doing just fine these days. The man she was with at the Heat game is reportedly her fifth fiancé, a VP at a wealth management firm in Atlanta.

So it appears this bird-flipping episode is actually the least crazy thing she's ever been involved in.

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franklin69
franklin69

If she is engaged, that guy better get a pre-nup.

Bionick_Barry69
Bionick_Barry69

I hope Filomena Tobias has a cocaine overdose and no one is there to help her expect her already dead husband.


SEEYAA
SEEYAA

Some of you people are just plain fucking stupid. Where does it say she is from Miami? She is from N.J. and lives in Palm Beach. Bunch of non-reading assholes. You don't like Miami, move.

Nadero Miller
Nadero Miller

Yeah I read the article from 2008 that was in New York Magazine, pretty crazy.

elpflasa
elpflasa

Dear Miami; I love you sooooooo much, but Goddam, it's a bitch to be a comedy writer here.  How the eff do I top THIS?!?!?!?!

Brownie Izaguirre
Brownie Izaguirre

I don't see why this lady or her past is relevant. Stupid news.

mimipua
mimipua

busta is the next to go reggae like snoop. both songs suk my ace

Sandor Exposito
Sandor Exposito

Wow..let the media catch you flicking ur middle finger at the wrong person and they will devour you. She should start her own reality show now..

Mike Diaz
Mike Diaz

In other words behave or the MNT will put you on blast

Kenia West
Kenia West

I personally wanted Miami New Times to dig up on this classy lady. because like everyone in miami im tremenda chismosa, so good job news time. after this we found out shes not even from miami.. trashy NJ bitch coming here to find rich men and then kill them for their monies. STAY CLASSY MIAMI NEW TIMES. also: the cover of the new times says "memories of murder" is this ladys picture on the cover? lol :P

Mercy Suarez
Mercy Suarez

Hey, at least she's not originally from Miami!! Woo hooo! Thanks, New Jersey! You bailed us out!

Chris Blythe
Chris Blythe

I stand by my earlier comment "she sounds like a really classy skank"

Derrick Christopher Mustelier
Derrick Christopher Mustelier

"profiles in people who give basketball players the finger on national TV" that's some cutting edge journalism right there...

misterwrong
misterwrong

Sounds like a couple people I know.  I think it's a Miami thing. 

Geoff Paugam
Geoff Paugam

Harry Docteur Juan Balda Did you guys check out the latest on the black widow???

charliegriffin63
charliegriffin63

Her new man, really hedge fund manager, he needs to be investigated, he's a nut job to be with a nut job...

Alex Anico, She needs to be bitch slapped. that why, she's giving the finger to someone at work, when she is the scum of life.

Alex Anico
Alex Anico

Dude why are you guys prying into this lady's life?! I wonder if people are still praising what she did knowing that if it was them their private life would become public tabloid news...

Michie Mee
Michie Mee

Oh leave her alone! Why dig up her life and name just cos of that? Miami New Times get a life!!!!

Danielle Brown
Danielle Brown

shocking...she's from NJ. Gotta love my home state...

Andrew Creech
Andrew Creech

Man, I really ought to become more obnoxious at Miami Hurricanes games...as if that were possible..

Kenia West
Kenia West

The 305 has its very own black widow. LOL

Amanda Drewniak
Amanda Drewniak

and now new times is making her a local celebrity...

Kenia West
Kenia West

Oh god, i bet she didnt expect this to come up just because shes a HEATed fan. lolol

Kzm Ufc
Kzm Ufc

...and the rest, I don't give a fuck about.

RIP_USA
RIP_USA

@christopher168Palm Beach socialite? Is that a codeword for  no class, loud mouthed, coke addicted,  plastic bimbo from "Jersey" 

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