Miami Women Aren't Particularly Picky, Claims Dating Site

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Are Miami women willing to go out on a date with just about anyone? Real-life experience would point to no, but dating site AYI.com's data analysis claims Miami is in the top five cities for least picky women.

Oh, really?

According to the site, it analyzed "453,000 interactions of single women between the ages of 18 and 99 and to discover locations where singles were the least likely to respond to online dating messages."

Brooklyn was the pickiest city, while Jersey City was the least picky. Miami came in second on the least-picky scale, joined by Saint Louis, Las Vegas, and Portland in the top five.

We have a few theories as to why women in Miami might be more willing to respond to messages than people in other cities. (Note: This data doesn't indicate how often these interactions lead to actual dates.)

  • Have you actually tried dating traditionally in this town? It's a horror show, so maybe Miamians are a little more likely not to dismiss someone who sends them a message right off the bat by ignoring it.
  • The site also claims that including the question "Where are you from originally?" in your first message elicits the highest response rate of any questions asked in online dating. Of course, whenever you meet anyone in Miami, the first question out of their mouths after "What's your name?" is likely to be "Where you from, ma?"
  • Or maybe Miami men as a group are just so charming and dreamy that women can't help but respond to their online advances. OK, actually, probably not.

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ajx0
ajx0

men largely face rejection far more than women. Men still do much of the asking out, women generally don't---unless you are some perceived alpha that other women are tripping over themselves to date/have sex/have a relationship with. Women will often go after what other women want; the goal of getting a man that other women desire is no exception. Regardless of his worth, a man who as a potential harem of sorts has women after him because other women value him.

But this is not common at all. Even so-called liberated women will often expect men to initiate and face rejection. Hypergamy is a subject that comes up on many MGTOW boards and videos; women that claim they want equality can be summed up by their hypocrisy by a couple of things; desiring to get a higher status man, and expecting men to do the work gaining her approval while she has veto power. By having this choice, it shunts the onus onto men while women do not have to face the pain of rejection; they are in the driver's seat, while men have to sink or swim. The righteousness in this dynamic is frustrating; women can be petty and nitpick about the dumbest crap in mate selection while not sharing the same level of approval winning.

In reality, many (if not most) women take rejection worse than men. Men have to inure themselves to it; hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.

Let's face it. Despite complaints to the contrary, even women of subpar physical looks, low-paying jobs, and other flaws can snatch a man far easier than a man in the same equivalence. Hell, even a man of higher attributes often have difficulty in dating and attracting a suitable mate. Women typically do not date/marry down as much, while men are supposed to demonstrate clemency to women that are of lesser socioeconomic status as them.

Since women have a better time attracting men, many believe that men can pick up women with the same ease and frequency. This is nonsense; men have to prove themselves far more unless they are at the top of the heap. There are women who complain about the quality of men out there, but they are usually focusing on a narrow spectrum of men. Even a recent article stated that anyone outside of being white collar are "non-negotiable" as far as dates are concerned---they are not dating material these pseudo-elist women mentioned in the post. Nevermind that many blue collar men can make good money, but I digress.

Looking into it further, the typical moaning and bitching often includes that men aren't even "manning up" to improve themselves and make themselves more potentially good date/mate material. Of course, there are women who decry that men will not take up their responsibilities. When Western culture is swimming in misandry, it's not too hard to understand why men will not "man up" in first place. When being loyal, honorable, honest, hard-working, genteel, and generous is not mutually rewarded or even outright exploited, a man seeing clearly will wise up.

This is evident with the dating scene as well. The cards are stacked against men, and there are women who will not give up their social and personal power so easily . . . even if it harms them in the short term. They are refusing to accept that there are men who will not let their own self-respect dwindle or be used in the dating process while sweety wants to reap the rewards. If some sort of mutual equity was widespread, it would be different, but it is not the environment we observe now.

A good friend of mine summed up things nicely, although he was speaking about the workplace when he was getting the brunt of crap jobs and lost much of his motivation when he knew it was a losing battle to hold on to his job at the time: If you don't care, why should I. There are women out there that do not want to understand this about men, and will continue to blunder and largely blame men while living in denial about what is actually happening.

Over the years, the shaming language loses it effect, and the women that are upset that men would rather play an X-Box in their thirties or keep their money for retirement. Women need acknowledge why this is more common rather than remaining smug and single (all the while still thinking about men at every turn). In the mating dance, even with the dating scene, it's not being intimidated by a "strong, independent" woman that stops men from approaching/making the first move. Those same men are tired of running the gauntlet for little result, disappointed by the arbitrary whims, never being good enough, and the exhaustive and trivial lists judgmental women draw up for them. And who can blame them?

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Can confirm that asking where you're from originally has netted me more responses in the last few days. 

NJ Gilbert
NJ Gilbert

Yes. Desperation, in a lot of cases.

Allyson Gettinger
Allyson Gettinger

Ummm, I don't know any guys in Miami with a large bank account...

Lenny Lebowitz
Lenny Lebowitz

No they are not picky they will use any man as thier personal atm

James Eagles
James Eagles

they have no idea what they are talking about. probably written by some dude from new york! LOL

Mistrwrong
Mistrwrong

It's not a matter of cities.  In every city its really easy to date the ugly people, and all the good looking ones are a bit high maintenance and snotty.  It's just there are way more good looking people in Miami.  Most cities people don't think twice about their 5 year old GAP wardrobe and being 100 pounds overweight.

Marilyn Gonzalez
Marilyn Gonzalez

Maybe if we had something good to pick from we could actually allow ourselves the luxury of being picky.

Eddie Suarez
Eddie Suarez

Dating in miami is not easy. Picky isn't the word I'd use.

Alex Porro
Alex Porro

There are choices, or "prizes" as the person with the very non-native name above mentioned on her post..Not all Miami "dudes" are bad.. You just have to look with a finer-toothed comb, but they are around. its just that the meatheads..or as I endearingly call them..."The Oye Brodes"..cover more ground, and thus, are more often seen on the scene.

Synergy13
Synergy13

They may date just for the free dinner.  I've heard a lot of men complain about this and women confess to it.  It may not be that the girl is interested at all, just hungry or needing to get free alcohol.  Sad, but true.

Joshua Rashad Jones
Joshua Rashad Jones

This is not a city to find love that's for sure. When Miami women give up that pretentious lifestyle, then they'll see that us non born and raised Miami guys aren't as bad as Miami dudes. But it takes a smart woman to decipher quality or quantity.

Allyson Gettinger
Allyson Gettinger

Unfortunately, there are not a lot of prizes in Miami...We kind of have no choice.

Annie Vega
Annie Vega

I suppose any man who is a citizen can give them the Green Card they seek! LOL

Brian Hughes
Brian Hughes

that explains so much success on eHarmony.com

Rainy Kinchen
Rainy Kinchen

There ARE a lot of women here who will date anything. They don't have standards and men like whatever's easy. That makes it a VERY bad situation for women who want more.

Tattooed_Beekeeper
Tattooed_Beekeeper

@Allyson Gettinger for real??  i dont know anyone with real money right now hehe in this economy 


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