Richie Incognito Needs to Toughen Up and Take Being Called Racist Like a Real Man

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Apparently it's more controversial in America to call a white man a racist than it is to call a black man a "n*gger."

When it came to light that Richie Incognito had bullied Jonathan Martin until he walked out of the Dolphins facilities to seek help, the word from inside NFL locker rooms (often on condition of anonymity) was that Martin was "soft" and needed to "toughen up." When we learned Incognito's bullying included racial slurs, people started calling the guard a racist. Then several of his teammates, past and present, came out of the woodwork to claim that was false.

The message we're getting is that when an NFL player is called a racist name in the locker room, it's all, "Pussy needs to toughen up." But when one gets called a racist, it's all, "Whoa, whoa, whoa guys. Let's consider our words and be civil about it."

Over at Sports Illustrated, Jim Trotter's collection of anonymous quotes from inside NFL front offices and locker rooms has come to signify the unfiltered response from inside the league.

"I think Jonathan Martin is a weak person," said one personnel man, speaking on the condition of anonymity. "If Incognito did offend him racially, that's something you have to handle as a man!" .... What fascinates me is how quickly the conversation among players and personnel people turned from Incognito's actions to those of Martin, who has not spoken publicly since the story broke last week. Again, no one defended Incognito, but they did wonder why Martin didn't "man up" and handle the situation one-on-one. ... "This is another ploy in the league's 'player safety' book. Incognito knew who to try. You never heard anything like this come from John Jerry or Mike Pouncey. Instead of being a man and confronting him, he acted like a coward and told like a kid."

(Over at the Atlantic, Ta-Nehisi Coates wrote a piece about how ridiculous it is for people to call someone a coward while hiding behind anonymity, by the way.)

So NFL players and personnel were perfectly fine with throwing public accusations around that Martin was a "coward" and "soft," but when people started calling Incognito a racist, the response was to rush to his defense.

According to the Sun-Sentinel, Mike Poncey gave an off-camera interview to ESPN's Chris Carter in which he defended Incognito:

"They don't feel as if he's a racist, they don't feel as if he picked on Jonathan repeatedly and bullied him, but if they could do it all over again there would be situations that they might change but they're very, very comfortable with Richie," Carter said.

"They think it's sad, not only that Jonathan's not on the football team, but also that Richie is being depicted as a bigot and as a racist."


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frankd4
frankd4 topcommenter

....................................so how come all these REAL MEN have such financial and emotional and personal problems within a few years AFTER early retirement .....................maybe MARTIN is the only real man among NEANDERTHALs who are destined towards extinction which is why he sticks out to such attention.............maybe it's time the NFL had their serpico outing to question are profits maximized at the expense of humanity leaving brain damaged physical hulks and financially bankrupt economic ruin .......all left to just go out like junior seau..............and here they are apparently too macho to realize what this all really means to them

frankd4
frankd4 topcommenter

.............................so maybe ZIMMERMAN was just "toughening up" young trayvon MARTIN when he shot him ! ? !  or was it trayvon who was "toughening up" wanna-be rent-a-cop GEORGE as the kid was bashing his head into the ground................until he got shot ? ! ?

seems then to end the discussion (either way)  - someone needs to get shot = period

Sean Chambers
Sean Chambers

Or...just maybe Incognito is justifiably mad, because his use of the "N" word was solely contained within the content of what he assumed to be a privately recorded joke. Thus, Incognito is wrongfully being applied labels and crucified by uninformed self-righteous members or psuedo-members of the media. I for one am really tired of this story. Moving on.

PHILBIN
PHILBIN

BIG Difference between NIGGA & NIGGER. Stop acting like little kids calling it the "n" word. Nigger is used in racist terms like Riley Cooper said "I'm going to fuck ever NIGGER" IN HERE UP". Incognito said Nigga, which is tossed around almost as a term of endearment in any sports team nontheless the black community. YOU nor I have heard the voicemails so you cannot even tell in which manner he was saying it. But i'll put up everything i got & bet you he said NIGGA & NOT NIGGER. Did Martin really think Incognito was going to "shit in his mouth" infront of a locker room. Was he REALLY going to slap his mother? If ANYONE needs to man up it's the MEDIA & Johnathan Martin. 

PoopStain
PoopStain

People say n*gger all the time. Nowadays, the only negative conjugation it depicts is that of a jobless ghetto gang-bangin' thug who rather drive their community down, than contribute anything to society.  It's 2013, and the term is perfectly acceptable and has been acceptable in all heritages, black, white, yellow, brown, green... the n-word is used, and people just need to deal with it.  it's not going to go away.  Incognito is making macho and laughable attempts with the word... we all do it.  If you deny it, your a fricken liar.  Martin is a poor sap who should get a sense of humor and deal with the football traditions of hazing... all rookies deal with it... or grow a set of balls and stand up for yourself.  The is not a news story. it's a news spin into a ratings game for viewers. No one cares about this.  Move on, please.

Alexander Fernandez
Alexander Fernandez

If they all understand each other, and they're cool with it, it is progress.

Robb Erwin
Robb Erwin

How about if all media outlets start referring to him as BITCHY INCOGNITO until he for formally apologizes for using language that many fans consider racist and for bringing so much negative attention to The Miami Dolphins? Ol' Bitchy and his friends would surely understand that the nickname is only meant to toughen him up, right? After all, only a very weak person would make a career of dirty play.

Danny Arango
Danny Arango

This article was pretty spot on in not only accurately gauging the severity of incognito's actions regardless of His intention or what Martin should or shouldn't have done.

Joe Price
Joe Price

Despite your massive overuse of the term "racist" you still get away with it waaaay more than you should. Most low information citizens don't understand that "racist" is more overused than "wolf" in The Boy That Cried Wolf. Your overuse is exacerbated by your consistent promotion of music replete with misogynistic lyrics overly punctuated with The N Word. I'm white so I will never claim to understand "The Black Experience", whatever that is. But I am human and I do understand the human experience. Incognito must be a special kind of dick. But that doesn't mean that blacks don't do themselves a huge disservice when they themselves use The N word. And it doesn't mean that everyone is not done a disservice when anybody is unnecessarily and inappropriately called racist. I hate The N Word and never use it. I lecture white people if I hear them use it, whether I know them or not, however infrequently I hear them use it. I won't deny blacks the use of The N Word but I feel strongly that it is a word that has caused soooo much pain, terror and even murder that EVERYONE should retire its' usage. Blacks may feel it "frees" them by allowing them to turn it inside out and thus "empowering" them (yeah, right). However, in reality allowing one person to do anything based solely on the color of their skin, whether it be riding in the front of the bus, playing major league baseball, eating at a lunch counter, being elected president or, yes, even using The N Word yet not allowing another person of a different skin color to do the same is the definition of racism. After all, reverse racism is still racism. But that's just me, and of course, Richard Pryor, who promised he would never use the term again. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kRfOOHqkW_s

Peter Traini
Peter Traini

or is it because he played for miami and noone hears a thing

Andrea Dutchland
Andrea Dutchland

Incognito is a legend on the dolphins team dont fuck with Richie . If he is calling you soft take it ! He will say it no matter what color ur skin is ... Your playing football not running for president !!! Man up !!

Peter Traini
Peter Traini

but when riley cooper said the N-word,,,all black people got all mad at that,,,but when incognito said the N-word ,alot of black people are ok with it,,,,so how bad is it saying it???

Dicky Bobby Perez
Dicky Bobby Perez

the day that black ppl stop referring themselves to the N word ( videos, movies, shows, pop culture), would be the day that word becomes obsolete, and out of daily usage from all racist. you don't hear hispanics calling each other spics, or jews calling each other heebs, etc.... therefore, you don't hear society using those words . but the N word is used everyday!

Erez Ahituv
Erez Ahituv

no, its actually to the point where u can't just call someone a racist for using words that have been embedded within our pop culture. then again this guy could still be a huge racist :D

Joshua Sigman
Joshua Sigman

hmm I wonder how long this status title is going to stay up...

Darian Faroy
Darian Faroy

I'm going to have to disagree with your caption

YummyinMyTummy
YummyinMyTummy

This is all ridiculous.  Football is a BUSINESS.   Any other business a coworker like Incognito would be out the door in a split second.   

And this 'football' is war talk by wannabee tough guys is idiotic.  It's also idiotic by players who don't know what's good for them/how they are being fleeced (and often ending up bankrupt after their careers!).

frankd4
frankd4 topcommenter

........................no one says it if they don't think it will ever become public = period

frankd4
frankd4 topcommenter

............................it's no different in my observation it's just covering up what everyone really knows you mean....................i've heard "nigga-nog" meant as a fill-in to replace a nast word that we all know to be an insult meant to harm and dis a BLACK person...............a REAL MAN says exactly what he means using words appropriate for the task = period

frankd4
frankd4 topcommenter

............................justifying the actions of an uncivilized steroid-fueled neanderthal is NOT the answer and NO we do NOT all do it (NOR would that justify it either)

there simply is no redeeming value at using the lowest common denominator in any conflict and RICHIE INCOGNITO is a disgrace to civilized society as is anyone who abuses and misuses god-given talent for low-life mindless self-aggrandizing rants

remember PAT TILLMAN

ddloo
ddloo

@PoopStain "we all do it"?! What world do you live in? Your handle - Poopstain - is appropriate, by the way.

frankd4
frankd4 topcommenter

.........................what about the kids and impressionable young adults that follow their lead ?

frankd4
frankd4 topcommenter

...............................well that's is a problem once ONE does it to another why not ALL do it to each other.........and around and around the hate is spewed (and when anyone gets caught they simply say they didn't really mean it)..........................and then someone gets shot and dies - right ?

frankd4
frankd4 topcommenter

........................my observation is it is social unacceptable = period

in trying to be hood-hip YET more than likely insult and offend in doing so by using the N word WHY RISK IT ?

frankd4
frankd4 topcommenter

...........................how exactly is richie being a real man ?

frankd4
frankd4 topcommenter

......................its a matter of R E S P E C T to treat people the way they treat themselves and that typically comes from HOW someone was raised by their PARENTs

the WHITE kids simply do not go around with their hats on backwards and pants pulled down because it would INSULT their parents in PUBLIC = period

today BLACK kids do not seem to have such inhibitions simply because they are typically throw-away kids who were conceived to qualify the parent for government financial support and these kids go about unsupervised and unprovided for by their parents (WHITE trailer-trash throw-away kids similarly exhibit the same disregard for how their own parents are preceived PUBLICLY by the way the kids dress and talk and act in public)

once you determine you are a N in society you simply act out the part including how you dress and speak and act without once thinking about social codes and proper civilized behavior

frankd4
frankd4 topcommenter

...........exactly - the proof is in how they carry on immediately after their on-the-field careers and typically they financially file bankruptcy and physically are reduced to damaged goods and once those two go (the money and the ability) then goes the mental / emotional side - so REAL MEN can't handle those truths and become soley dependant on support or simply go the route junior seau took

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